Article: Deal With Your Emotional Pain | Jaisha James

Human tend to ignore the emotional health and give relevance to the physical pain. Even a small cut on the skin wins your attention but the pain inside, is unattended though not forgotten. We believe that the more we concentrate on and dig around the emotional pain, the more it hurts and so better untouched.
We often tend to go behind the causes of pain and forget to sort it out on time. People use physical pain to escape the emotional pain. They cut and slice themselves in order to relieve stress. This is partially because we realize that the physical pain garners more empathy than the emotional one. But we forget that the emotional pain damages our self-esteem and mental health. For instance, failing an exam creates a fear of failure, getting bullied in school makes us shy and introverted… We should give just as much care, if not more, to our emotional health as we do our physical health.
Bible says “plans” to prosper you and not to harm you, “plans” to give you hope and future. If his plans include pain, then we should also be aware that the God of all Grace “will himself restore, confirm, strengthen and establish us” (1 Pet. 5:10). There is no quick and easy path in healing. Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted, but always remember ‘Healing is a process and it takes time’.
Here I have listed some practical measures (with 1 Bible reference each) that I have learnt as part of my study, to find emotional healing. These are things that we know but ignore or often ‘miss out’ due to our busy schedule.
1. Meditate on God’s word

Ps.1:1-2 says “Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, but whose delight is in the law of the Lord, and who meditates on his law day and night”
The person who delights in God’s law so much that he meditates on it day and night is delivered from the ways of the wicked and sinners and mockers, and is made fruitful and prosperous.

2. Confess your sins

1 John 1:9 says “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness”
When you confess your sins, you are restored by a loving Father who delights in showering the brokenhearted with His mercy and compassion.

3. Let Holy Spirit take control of your thoughts

Rom 8:5 says “Those who live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what the nature desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires.”
The way you act depends on how you feel, which in turn is determined by your thoughts. The Bible says you have to replace the old mindset with the new mindset. Invite Holy Spirit to help replace the uncontrollable thoughts.

4. Refuse to go back to your old self
Eph.4:17-24 “So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking. They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts. Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, and they are full of greed. That, however, is not the way of life you learned when you heard about Christ and were taught in him in accordance with the truth that is in Jesus. You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.”
Hardest of all, this verse needs no further explanation.

5. Forgive those who hurt you

Heb.12:15 “See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.”
Easier said than done. But isn’t it beautiful to know that Jesus has forgiven your sins? Isn’t that a feeling you would want to give someone? Let us have a soft heart so that we can accept apologies just like Jesus did to us.

6. Get involved in the nearest fellowship and ministries

2Corin.1:3-5 says “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God”
When you try to help heal others, you will in turn be healed faster because sufferings equip us to comfort others.
And my personal favorite, try listening to audio Bible. It has always helped me. I do it whenever and wherever possible, while eating, walking, travelling and sometimes while working too!!! Give time and ear to His words so that God can work miracles in your lives!

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